I’ve been feeling it of late.
I have to admit – the process of balancing fatherhood, being a dedicated husband and running a coaching business has been an epic challenge for me.
I get one right but another lacks attention.
Bringing them all into alignment is the key.
It’s like playing life Tetris with creative energy sometimes.
The cost being my emotional state, which so obviously interferes with my ability to create on all levels.
Creating social media content, creating delivery content, creating marketing, creating wealth – they’re all extensions of emotional well-being.
And when they’re not flowing as I’d like to – it hurts.
It’s not the balancing act that pains me it’s my epic attachment to the outcomes I set for myself that causes the displeasure.
I know this.
Learning the art of caring and committing without attachment to how it flows or what I achieve is probably the best I can do sometimes.
So I’ve made a commitment to not caring so much.
Not the ‘not caring’ kind where I give up on my purpose, stop giving a fuck, switch on Netfflix for an eternity and shut off from the world, my dreams and my responsibilities.
Just the kind of ‘not caring’ where I stop taking it all so freaking seriously that it pains me.
Immediately I can see the potential benefits.
Detaching from outcomes brings my care more into the focus of self-care and…
Refocusing on my values.
The foundation of a healthy creation.
You see releasing attachment, in one regard, has seen me bring focus to my values system.
Numero uno is family.
In particular I specifically value adventures with my wife and boy.
This weekend I took my boy to Masons Falls in Kinglake and then my family to Scienceworks.
It brings me more energy than coaching, sales, marketing, content development ever could.
It also fuels me to develop these business/creative endeavors further and more constructively.
Following your Purpose in business is essential but my belief is that following your values first enables a greater extension of one’s service to the world.
When I care for NUMBER 1 VALUE everything can fall into place.
When I detach from outcomes the fear subsides, I’m more myself and the positive on-flow is evident.
I want for great things on this planet hence I’m a Thought Leader, but my family comes first.
The balancing act has brought growth.
Resilience – learning to deal with uncertainty and challenge.
Trust – learning to faithfully surrender to the flow.
Values focused – learning to honour what’s most important to me.
Growth still hurts and creates pain sometimes.
A pain that can be diminished with greater allowance.
A hurt that can be soothed by loosening my grip on the outcome.
The breadcrumbs I’ve been following have lead me through some tricky pathways.
To me that is what following Purpose can be like sometimes.
You first get to know yourself and what you’re here to do and then…
You follow the trail of crumbs often not knowing where they will eventually lead you.
(That’s why running a business with a purposeful service to the world is not for everyone – it’s fraught with uncertainty).
But I know those crumbs just want me to keep picking them up.
One by one.
Keep following the trail of my inner knowing.
Focused on the present in order to bring about the future I desire for my family.
Even the thought of detachment brings relief.
It enables me to step through the fear barrier of my next bold steps forward.
Which are BIG.
Big generally equals scary.
Stay present to the moment.
Detach from the outcome.
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
No matter what – I will love, accept and care for myself.
What idea, outcome or prize in business and life are you holding on to way to much?
Where do you need to have healthy detachment in order to enhance your creativity and bring grater balance?
What would happen if you just let go?
PS. Whenever you’re ready…
Here’s 3 other ways I can help you turn your growing pains into growth and enhance your creative potential in business and life.
1. Grab a free copy of my 5-Step Formula Pdf download…
“How to Smash Self Doubt, Play a Bigger Game and Stay True to Your Purpose”
2. Join The Purpose Tribe Facebook Group…
Connect with other purpose-driven entrepreneurs and business peeps excited about exploring human potential.
This growing tribe of pioneers are inspired to profit abundantly doing more of what fulfils them, whilst making a difference in the world.
AND they want to connect!
3. Work with me personally…
If you’re curious how I can help you find direction and clear that BS that holds you back from doing more of what fulfils you everyday in business and life – let’s chat!