This is an awesome tool that I use a lot with my clients to help you move from self-doubt and fear-of-failure, to feeling self-belief, confidence and a readiness to take on the world. It get’s fantastic results.
Find Your Gold
This activity is the first in a five-step called The Success Somersault™.
It’s a tool that I put together based specifically on the needs of my Mastery Coaching™ clients. I’ve discovered that successful people actually suffer from self-doubt and fear-of-failure more than you would think.
How Is This So?
Well, what’s happened is that they’ve been attached to the outcome of something important in their past, something really, really important. They invested a lot of themselves into it, and it didn’t go as planned, or it went very wrong. As a result, what they’ve done is stored and coded it at an unconscious level as what you might call “failure”.
Once you start to store and code past events as “failures”, you leave yourself susceptible to self-doubt. This then leads to indecision, procrastination and eventually to a lack of motivation. In some instances, it can actually cripple successful, ambitious and results-driven people and because an ongoing hindrance on their path.
Funnily enough, most people who really love are also terribly afraid of failure.
Unhealthy attachment to the outcome of future events based on fearful experiences of your past has a negative influence on your ability to perform. Therefore the whole idea of this process is to reframe those past events; to literally put them in a different frame or context. You want to store and code them at an unconscious level in a different way, in a positive way, in an empowering way that can enable you to use those past failures as your greatest assets. You want them to become your armoury for moving forward, taking on the world, and winning again.
Let’s go through the process. It’s super, super simple and highly effective.
The process is called Find Your Gold.
The first thing you need to do is identify the pain point or points. What I mean by that is, find the unsuccessful event or events that led to believing that you failed.
You need to identify where that is in your memory and reflect upon it. You need to float above that event in your memories, so you’re seeing yourself inside the event like you’re watching a movie. It might be uncomfortable and that’s okay. Just allow yourself to go back to that event. Get right up above it so you can see what really happened. Ask yourself, “What have I learnt from this? What more can I learn?”
Once you’ve got the learnings you need to put them into a big fat list.
On a piece of paper draw two columns. On one side write “Learnings” and under it list all the learnings you deduced from going back to that event. Write down as many learnings as you can, now and for the future, that if you were to apply those learnings would see you get nothing but success and results moving forward.
The next thing I want you to do is write the heading “Excellence” at the top of the other column.
Excellence (in this instance) is all of the ways that these learnings have assisted you and can assist you to excel in life. What successful actions have you been taking? What have you been achieving in life as a result of what you learnt?
Really challenge yourself to flesh this out.
Again, write a big fat list for Learnings and big fat list of Excellence.
What is the whole idea of doing a process like this?
Well, if you’re storing and coding previous events as “failure”, you’re actually storing and coding that in your nervous system, brain and neurological pathways.
To successfully change a habit of thought, we need to actually change that on a neurological level. We need to create new pathways that support results-driven thoughts, actions and behaviors.
By doing this activity and putting time into it by writing big fat lists of learnings, what you’re doing is facilitating a realisation for you at a cellular level. Once changed on a cellular level, it becomes a new ‘unconscious’ pattern of thought.
Step 3 ACTION!
I always say, “Action equals results.”
Think about how you can use this information to put new behaviors into action.
What are 3 things you can start doing immediately that will help you “own” and integrate this realisation of how important your presumed “failures” can be to your eventual (and current) success in life?
The Next Step
If you’d like to continue this journey of turning previous unsuccessful events and defeats into your greatest assets so you can take on the world and get results, I thoroughly recommend that you download the Free 9-Page Blueprint PDF that I’m offering called The Success Somersault™: The 5-Step Formula to Smash Self-Doubt and Bounce Back like a Boss.
You may also like to take advantage of a Free 10 Minute Chat to identity key actions you can take to get better results.